Monday, November 25, 2013

Lessons Learned!

So as of September 30th Nathan and I have had our callings for one year. And this post is dedicated to those things that I have learned as being a Bishops wife for one year.
Not exactly sure where to start so I'll just type things as they come to mind.

I need to be more kind to people that are in need of service.

Don't judge people. You don't always know the whole story.

I have learned that forgiveness is the greatest gift we can offer someone.  And ourselves.
I have learned that many know about Jesus Christ but more of us could make an effort to know Him.
I have learned that the strongest among us are those with the cleanest mirrors.
I have learned that the sins of parents profoundly affect children.  And are often repeated by them.
I have learned that affection from parents profoundly affects children.
- See more at: http://www.russhillmedia.com/2013/03/19/confessions-of-a-mormon-bishop/#sthash.x4y2fixe.dpuf
I have learned that forgiveness is the greatest gift we can offer someone.  And ourselves.
I have learned that many know about Jesus Christ but more of us could make an effort to know Him.
I have learned that the strongest among us are those with the cleanest mirrors.
I have learned that the sins of parents profoundly affect children.  And are often repeated by them.
I have learned that affection from parents profoundly affects children.
- See more at: http://www.russhillmedia.com/2013/03/19/confessions-of-a-mormon-bishop/#sthash.x4y2fixe.dpuf
I have learned that forgiveness is the greatest gift we can offer someone.  And ourselves.
I have learned that many know about Jesus Christ but more of us could make an effort to know Him.
I have learned that the strongest among us are those with the cleanest mirrors.
I have learned that the sins of parents profoundly affect children.  And are often repeated by them.
I have learned that affection from parents profoundly affects children.
- See more at: http://www.russhillmedia.com/2013/03/19/confessions-of-a-mormon-bishop/#sthash.x4y2fixe.dpuf
I have learned that forgiveness is the greatest gift we can offer someone.  And ourselves.
I have learned that many know about Jesus Christ but more of us could make an effort to know Him.
I have learned that the strongest among us are those with the cleanest mirrors.
I have learned that the sins of parents profoundly affect children.  And are often repeated by them.
I have learned that affection from parents profoundly affects children.
- See more at: http://www.russhillmedia.com/2013/03/19/confessions-of-a-mormon-bishop/#sthash.x4y2fixe.dpuf


That the sins of parents profoundly affect children;  And are often repeated by them.

Affection from parents profoundly affects children.

I have learned that many know about Jesus Christ but more of us could make an effort to know Him.

I have learned that the strongest among us are those with the cleanest mirrors.
I have learned that the sins of parents profoundly affect children.  And are often repeated by them.
I have learned that affection from parents profoundly affects children.
- See more at: http://www.russhillmedia.com/2013/03/19/confessions-of-a-mormon-bishop/#sthash.x4y2fixe.dpuf

I have learned that forgiveness is the greatest gift we can offer someone.  And ourselves.
I have learned that many know about Jesus Christ but more of us could make an effort to know Him.
I have learned that the strongest among us are those with the cleanest mirrors.
I have learned that the sins of parents profoundly affect children.  And are often repeated by them.
I have learned that affection from parents profoundly affects children.
- See more at: http://www.russhillmedia.com/2013/03/19/confessions-of-a-mormon-bishop/#sthash.x4y2fixe.dpuf

Despite what people think the Bishop does have a life outside of being Bishop. He has a job and so he isn't home during work hours. If you need to schedule an appointment with the Bishop call the Executive Secretary to make an appointment, and no that isn't me.

The strongest among us are those with the cleanest mirrors.

Just because we're the Bishop's family doesn't automatically make us a perfect family, or the perfect role models by any means. But I feel like we are placed on a pedestal and are constantly being watched, which causes more stress for the family.


It is true that the blessings pour out to us, but we also have Satan tempting us just as much, if not more, to take a swim in that sea of sin.

Forgiveness is the greatest gift we can offer someone-and ourselves.

Your list of  things -to make- for friends and neighbors for Christmas just tripled in size. But also people who never have given you something all of a sudden do.

It's really nice to get invited to all personal events that take place with those that live in our ward boundaries. So I must have a supply of gifts on hand and ready to go for any and all of these occasions that tend to come up.

Nathan is known as the burying Bishop. I believe in the past year he has had 8 funerals. Yikes!

I'm not judging in anyway, but it is amazing to me how many people mail their tithing, or express pay it every month.

I have learned being happy is a choice.
 
Just because you tell the Bishop something doesn't by any means mean that he tells his wife, in fact I feel like I'm the last to know anything that is or isn't going on. And most things that he gets told I don't even care to know - and don't because he doesn't tell me.


Churches are not museums or catwalks for perfected saints but labs for sinners. 

I need to make sure that Nathan always has a clean white shirt, which sometimes means doing an extra load of whites during the week, or buy him more white shirts. ;)

It's also OK to make your own decisions that are best for the calling which you have. The Bishop doesn't need to help or give approval from - for- every thing- some things yes, but not everything. When you got your calling you were set apart for that calling, which gives you the right to receive revelation for the calling which you have. But the Bishop is doing his very best to do whatever is asked of him.



There’s more sadness in this world than I had realized.

There is also more goodness in this world than I had realized.

A habit of one brief moment of spirituality a day can alter one’s entire direction.

His time is precious to his family and we understand that with this call it is also limited. So the time that we do have is ours and we don't like to share it much.

Those preoccupied with serving others have less time to count their problems.

Just because we live with the Bishop doesn't mean that we see him all the time. Sometimes we have to go to the church just to see him.


I think that I could go on and on, but I better quit because I might be in big trouble for being so blunt. Just remember this is a post on Things that I've Learned my first year as being a Bishops wife. I know that our family is being blessed for the sacrifices that our Bishop is making, but knowing this doesn't always make it easy.

Indeed, I have learned the lesson that I have much to learn.

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